5 Things You Can Do To Move On After A Breakup

Regardless of whether your relationship was a long term or a short term one or even perhaps a marriage that lasted for several years, you may be going through a painful breakup at this time.

Sometimes, relationships end despite our best efforts. Whatever the case, it’s a smart idea to have some expert strategies in your emotional toolbox to navigate those waters, should they develop.

Apply these methods to help you survive the end of a relationship:

1. Take time to ponder what’s happened to you. It’s common to try to work extra hours, stay away from home, or avoid being alone to prevent having to emotionally face the absence of a partner.

• However, you’ll gain a better understanding of what’s happened if you spend some moments identifying the events that led to the breakup.

• This step may be tough for you to do. If so, limit the time you’ll allow yourself to think about the relevant facts of the situation to a half hour a day.

2. Get together with friends and family. Resting your mind and emotions from the recent trauma of the breakup helps you heal. Leaning on those you love will help tremendously when it comes to your recovery. It also provides a welcome distraction.

3. Perform a positive personal inventory. You’re likely aware of what your not-so-positive traits are. But at this time in your life, you’ll be well on your way to surviving the breakup if you consider your strengths and positive qualities.

• Maybe you’re a charismatic person with an analytical mind. Perhaps you have beautiful eyes or an incredible way of making others feel comfortable around you.

• The point is to remind yourself of all your positive qualities so you’ll realize you still have a lot going for you.

• Make your list as long as possible. You could use the boost right now.

4. Listen to your own feelings about whether to have contact with your ex-partner. If your former partner texts or calls saying, “Let’s remain friends,” after the breakup, take your time and decide whether or not you really want to do that.

• He may call you a month later and invite you to meet for coffee. It’s your decision. Are you ready to see him? Do you want to try to maintain “friendly” contact?

• Do what feels comfortable for you. Frankly, what’s best for you in such a complex situation is difficult to surmise. Follow your instincts.

• Of course, if there was prior emotional or physical abuse in the relationship, saying “no” to future contact is likely the best choice.

5. Try something new. Get yourself out of your own head and back in to the mainstream of life. Challenge yourself to learn something new or pursue a hidden passion. To illustrate, consider the following suggestions as examples of putting your toe in unfamiliar, yet fascinating waters:

• Volunteer for the child mentoring agency you might have been interested in for the last few years.
• Take a course in  a subject that you really like at your local community college.
• Join a local club that does fund raising for charities. There are many such organizations in every town.
• Learn a new skill, like wood crafting, making stained glass, learning a new language or jewelry making, for example.

Although it’s true a tough breakup is no fun to go through, rest assured you have the ability to help yourself survive this challenging life event.

You’re the master of your choices and your life. As the natural healing process takes place after a split, you’ll discover the confidence to say, “I will have a great life from now on” and mean it.

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